Who’s in Charge? You or Your Feelings?

Oct 14, 2020

Who’s in Charge? You or Your Feelings?

Many people allow their feelings to run their lives.  When your feelings run the show you can expect to live on a roller coaster of emotion where your feelings dictate your behavior and actions.

This also has a huge impact on your results.  

If you are interested in creating an extraordinary life, it’s vital to examine where you allow your feelings to dictate your actions and create commitments that will stabilize emotion and move you consistently towards the feelings and experiences you TRULY want.

So, how do you keep the feelings in check?

It’s incredibly helpful to create commitments that keep you in alignment with your bigger goals. Because on any given day, your feelings can travel all over the place.

It’s your commitments that will ground you in action.  If you know what you’re committed to, then you can show up and honor that commitment even when you don’t feel so inclined.

*This isn’t about ignoring your feelings.  Feelings are important and are to be acknowledged, however, when they consistently run the show – they impede progress on our larger dreams and goals.

By doing so, you eliminate all the overthinking of whether you should, could, or want to. The next thing you know, you’re in action, then the action is complete and things are one step closer to that commitment or desired outcome.

This works!

Dive into these journaling prompts to get clear on what you are committed to:

  • What area of life do you want to focus on?
  • What do you REALLY want for this area of your life?
  • Where do your feelings/emotions throw you off?
  • What commitments can you make that will uphold the vision you have?
  • How will showing up to these commitments allow you to thrive in this area?
  • What would be possible if you showed up consistently to your commitments for a month, 6 months, a year?
  • How can you set yourself up for success?

Here’s an example of how to go about answering these prompts:
Area of life: 

  • Physical Health Desire: To feel energized and healthy (regular exercise + healthier eating)
  • Emotions:  My feelings of being tired, sad, lazy get in the way and I just give myself an out every time.
  • Commitment:  Create an accountability partner for 3x a week.  Shop for the entire week + plan meals. Go to bed at a more consistent time. These commitments will put into place simple things that will make it easier to stay on track and help me to keep the promises I make to myself.
  • Consistency:  I would feel great if I followed through on this for a month.  If I did this for 6 months – I would feel amazing – physically and I’m thinking my confidence would go way up!
  • Success:  I will make a sticky note on my bathroom mirror so that I read it every day.  Set up my accountability partner today.  Celebrate every small win with something meaningful.

How might your day, week, or life be different if you woke up with your big commitments in place, and then lined up your actions accordingly?

The trick here is that your feelings WILL show up and try to derail you; your job is to return to your commitments again and again and simply take the next action in the face of your feelings.

This is about progress, not perfection.

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