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True Lasting Change

Jan 09, 2023

True Lasting Change

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Contrary to what our minds and the world around us are saying – true lasting change isn’t found through more achievements, checked to-do lists or acquiring more things.

After a decade of coaching individuals from corporate leaders, creative entrepreneurs to multi million dollar CEO’s, there are 4 things that stand out again and again.  These are the things I watch my clients do day after day that create the real, lasting changes we actually want.

These 4 Things Lead to True Lasting Change

1. Address the root.
Lasting change starts at the foundation.  For example, if you want to experience more love in your marriage, instead of planning more date nights – make it your mission this year to remove the barriers that keep you from being more present, more open and more loving to your spouse on the daily.

2. Think small, consistent, aligned actions over time.
If taking better care of your health is on your list this year – while you are eating better and heading to the gym, also focus on your behaviors that sabotage sustaining your commitment. If emotions drive your eating decisions – try taking care of the emotion in the moment instead of defaulting to eating.  Ask yourself, “Is it food I really need, or something else?”

3. Do differently, instead of more.
Resist the urge to fall into the trap of the “Someday Illusion”. You can learn more about this here.  The Someday Illusion keeps you on the hamster wheel of doing more, achieving more and getting better.  Before getting swept away in busyness, pause to ask yourself these questions.  1. What do you want to FEEL more of in your life this year? Then, make sure your goals and actions are set up to support you feeling this way now.  When you feel good, you create incredible momentum AND that ripples to everything.

4. Start on the Inside.
Last, but not least. The changes I have made in my life, and what I have witnessed in others all these years through my private coaching work, reveals again and again that the things we deeply want are not material, they are non-material.  They live in the unseen world.  They are things like deeper connection, peace of mind. intimacy, meaning and purpose.  These things are not obtained by having more time or space in our calendars, by completing the to-do list, or by achieving the next milestone of revenue. These things are achieved by calming the mind, getting quiet and listening on a soul level.

As you set out inspired to realize your goals for this year, put these in your back pocket. And, ask yourself…

  • What needs to change in my thinking in order to realize my goals?
  • What one habit could I adopt that would support all of my goals?

I love the new year, but what I love more is creating a world where you don’t have to wait for a new year to invigorate your life with new energy – you have the tools to do that over and over again all year.

I hope this inspires some ideas to do just that. 🙂

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“Carla and I had an instant connection. On the surface, I had everything going for me. I was doing well in my career, I had recently come out to my family and was welcomed with open arms, I was in a healthy relationship, and I had just finished an Ironman triathlon. But internally, I was in a constant state of angst. Was I in the right career? Was this one the right one? Carla helped equip me with the tools I needed to understand not only why I felt a certain way but also why I act the way I do. We then created a better version of myself to navigate life.”

– Will B.
“From professional discussions to personal development, the tools I learned throughout my work with Carla has helped me deepen relationships, let go of stress and find presence and energy. Coaching from Carla has allowed me to see situations in a clear light due to the thought process I’m practicing regularly. I would suggest Carla and her coaching to anyone that is looking to stretch his or her mindset, abilities and wants to better him or herself.”

– Cara L.
“Before coaching with Carla, I was stuck in a rut- telling myself old stories that were holding me back- spiraling in negative self-talk. I believed that my worth was tied to my vocation.
Over the course of 3 months, I gained a renewed confidence in myself, my work, and my relationships. I learned how to change my steps, unravel old stories and be honest about what I want to shift and now I’m experiencing a wave of growth like never before. I’m sticking up for myself and showing others how I’d like to be treated. I’m genuinely able to help friends and family again-not because I want something in return, but because I truly want them to succeed. I’m showing up for myself and others and it feels good. That’s probably the biggest take-away. I feel good.”

– Frances K.
“This work is like having a constant hand on your back supporting you. Carla is nurturing, kind and caring. More importantly she has a way of simplifying things that feel big and heavy and helping you see them in a way that is light and empowering. She has so many tools in her arsenal and really caters her guidance based on your needs.

Prior to working with Carla I felt like my life was slipping away and I was on the sidelines watching it. After re-framing old thinking and creating my commitments, I feel connected to others and have deeper relationships with husband, kids and friends. I am experiencing my life and living intentionally. It’s something that I have to work on daily, but it’s getting easier and more natural.”

– Lyndsay C.
“I have had my eyes opened to an entirely new way of thinking. Carla helped me uncover what was causing many of the challenges in my professional and personal life. With Carla’s insight, coaching framework and ongoing guidance we worked toward a new solution that helped me overcome these challenges and let go of the guilt, frustration and disappointment I was constantly feeling. We got to the root of these deeper feelings and I took actionable steps to take back control. As a result, I was able to nearly immediately increase two client retainers, strengthen my relationships with clients and most importantly be happier in my daily routines.”

– Karen C.
“Carla has been a tremendous blessing in my life. She provides the words of wisdom that I know I need but sometimes have trouble finding within myself. Our multi-year journey has brought me order, direction, vision, and happiness. From running a company to improving important relationships, Carla has been a steadfast sage and source of comfort. I recommend her to anyone I can.”

– Teddy Jones
“Working with Carla is like going on vacation. I can see things more clearly and think outside myself. She brings out these good thoughts in me and helps me move my life forward.”

– Heather L.
“Even after working w/ Carla for 2 years, I still feel like each session I have with her results in a positive shift in my perspective. The tools she has taught me have become indispensable in my efforts to build a truly unique life.”

– William Crouse, Producer
“My life before coaching was unbalanced, out of control and I felt overwhelmed. I have always been positive and focused and in control so these feelings were very challenging. I went through some life changing events and was struggling to move forward. I worked through old pain, to think differently, and relieve myself of unnecessary pressures that were weighing me down and holding me back. My relationships grew stronger. I became happier and more focused, balanced and content. I feel like a better version of myself.”

– Stacy M.
“Carla’s coaching increased my professional productivity and enhanced my personal awareness enormously. Our sessions provide me with clarity about the most important things in my life and how to achieve them. Carla is a phenomenal and passionate coach who brings a unique perspective to every eye-opening encounter — the way you think about your life, changes your life!”

– Judith M., Sculptor
“Carla is helping me to quiet the internal dialogue that has been holding me back in my career and relationships. Working with her has helped me to embrace my strengths which, in 10 weeks dramatically shifted my role as a leader, my relationship with my business partner, husband, and clients. I know that this is JUST the beginning!”

– Heather W.
“Meeting Carla was like divine serendipity – she and I met just prior to one of the most challenging and life-changing years of my life. Carla assisted me with tools and meaningful conversations that helped me make my chaotic life manageable. She provided tools to allow me to keep the truth of situations center and my feelings in check. Carla helped me get out of my own way to see the bigger vision for my life. Her tools and techniques are always with me.”

– Kim P.
“Before coaching, I paid little attention to how much my thinking can change my reactions, emotions, and ultimately my decisions. Working with Carla has given me a whole new perspective on how powerful my own thinking and actions can be towards my happiness and success in all aspects of my life.”

– Christine Johnson
“The one thing I need to make sure I feel aligned and connected to myself.”

– Carolyn Crouse

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